Embrace It…You’re The Co-Pilot

Whoa, it’s a cold morning here in Kentucky.  Thankful I’m off today and can stay in and cuddled up on my couch.  We are now seven days into 2015 and I find myself really embracing the blogging community.  I’m very thankful for the life I have and that I not only share it with my wonderful husband, but also with God.  I encourage you to read this blog post today from Thoughts About God.  It really hits the nail on the head with someone who thought they were in control of their own life.  Embrace the fact that you don’t have all the answers and trust God.

Have a Blessed Morning,

April

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take a deep breathe…and exhale

I want to let go and not stress over every detail.  I have been saying my daily affirmation.  “I will not stress over things I  can not control.” We are five days into 2015 and I can already feel myself clinching up and stressing.  I’m not proud of it.  I am trying.  Today I caught myself stressing.  I could feel the stress radiating off my body.  So how do you channel that negative stress into positive energy?  You take a deep breathe, say a prayer, and exhale.  This is easier said than done, but it’s worth it.  I promise, it’s not just hot air that I am releasing.  I’m releasing negative energy.  I’m letting go of things that I can not control.

Every day it gets a little easier for me and I hope for someone out there it will for them too.  My friend today reminded me that we aren’t in control of anything except our actions.  That’s a great reminder that I think everyone needs to be reminded of.  We have to let things go and just exhale.  If we don’t, the negative will eat us alive. For those that of that are weak, we will not get stronger.  For those of us that are sick, we will not get well.  Let it go!

Forgive yourself for your mistakes, let go of things you can’t control, and take things one step at a time.

Have a blessed day,

April
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Change of Focus

5386d0ffb4dbb71556ef2195d9e45f43What a dreary afternoon this Saturday is.  It’s raining, it’s gloomy, and my only plan for the rest of the day is to spend it at home.  When I find yourself at home with no plans, my brain starts to wonder.  I have had a bad habit in the past that I’m trying to shake this year.  It’s called being stressed.  Heard of it?  I’m sure you have been there.  My horrible habit is that I tend to stay that way.  I stress about every little detail of every possible situation. Now, what I’m about to tell you has changed my entire thought process and when you say it, you must say it out loud.  Are you ready?  Ok, now repeat after me, “I can not stress about things that I can not control.”  Since I’m on a different path these days, I have to repeat this affirmation to myself about a hundred times a day.  I have learned to change my focus. Even though it’s a daily struggle, I stopped focusing on how stressed I am and I remember how blessed I am. I’m blessed that I have a loving husband because I am not in this battle alone. I am blessed that I am full because it means I have food in my fridge.  I am blessed that I have dirty laundry, because it means I have clothes on my back. I am blessed that I have aches and pains because it means I am alive.  I am blessed that I have bills to pay because it means I have a roof over my head.  Change your focus.  Change your perception. Remember that nothing is permanent and everything can change in the blink of an eye. Be blessed and not stressed.

Have a great afternoon,

April

Dance-Solutions?

My shimmy sister (who shall remain nameless) and I have made a “dance-solution” to each other every year since we’ve met.  Last year our “dance-solution” was to “go big or go home”.  Well, we went big.  Real big.  So big that it was like an atomic bomb when our dreams came crashing down and we both went into seclusion.  Thank goodness our atomic bombs were not simultaneous and when the other was down, we were able to pick each other up.  We both had a pretty strange dance year.  Our dance-solutions ended with a bang on both ends.  We can honestly say that we accomplished our goals no matter how we felt after it was over.  We went big AND went home.  I always encourage dancers to go out while they are on top.  You should leave your mark at the highlight of your career.  I can say that. I will always choreograph for the kids and continue to make their dance experience unique, but I took my final performance curtain call on Dec 15, 2014 and I have no intention on performing again.  My shimmy sister went the other direction and performed more.  She’s discovering dance outside of our little town and I couldn’t be more proud.  For someone who is so quiet and reserved, on stage you would never know that.

So what did we promise to encourage each other this year?  Our 2015 Dance-solution is understanding that “we are enough”.  How to be content with the person inside and truly believe that the grass isn’t always greener.  We both have very special qualities, especially as choreographers, and we have something to say. We have a voice deep inside no matter what others might think.

So, my shimmy sister, I promise you that this year I will look deep inside and see that I am enough.  I love you, Doll!  Let’s make our 2015 “dance-solution” the best one ever!

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The day I never thought would come

Happy 2015 Everyone!  As a former bartender, I really enjoy watching the ball drop on tv these days rather than getting dolled up to go out on NYE.  Something about New Year’s Eve that brings out the people who NEVER go out in public and probably shouldn’t.  So many things to be thankful for right here in my living room.  I no longer feel the need to go out and validate myself by putting on a cocktail dress, attending some party that my husband nor myself really want to be at, and then coming home and plastering it all over social media.  What’s the point?  I’ve never understood how that is so important to some.  Personally, I’ve never been so happy to ring in a new year and I can admit that I actually shed a tear when the clock turned to the stroke of midnight.  I kissed my husband, we toasted our mimosas in our pajamas, and I had a sigh of relief. I felt at peace knowing that 2014 was finally over.  616a843fa0  A brand new chapter.  People make all sorts of resolutions for a new year. Do you want a new job?  Do you want to lose weight?  Maybe you want to move half way across the world?  I have one solution.  Just do it!  Whether it’s a right or wrong decision, at least you decided to do something with your life.  This is your chance to begin again.  Now, I need to clarify this affirmation.  You can “begin again” any minute of any day of the year.  The moment you chose to start living your life, is the moment that you begin again.  My personal journey actually began weeks before 2014 ended.  Ringing in the new year was just a sign of relief that my horrible year was finally over.  So what are my plans as I begin again? 10406439_902753569736860_2793804192892992939_nI think Tony Gaskins really nailed it on the head with these goals. My husband and I really sat down before the year ended and really talked about what we wanted for our new year.  We decided that 2015 for us is all about growth and new opportunities.   We know that coming out of 2014 that life can change in an instant and how we are not prepared for those situations.  So we sat down and made a plan.  A plan that includes us reconnecting with God, furthering our educations, strict financial guidelines, and really making a life for ourselves.  By really communicating with each other, there is no guessing game.  We really know what the other one wants and needs. This is 2015, my friends.  Bad situations are going to happen,  the unexpected will present it self, the devil will try to persuade you in the wrong direction, but if you put your faith in the Lord there is no possible way you can go wrong.   If you are stuck on things from your past, there is no possible way your future is going in the right direction.  We need to strive each and everyday to make our lives better than the day before.  Rid yourself of the hatred and negativity.  ALWAYS BE POSITIVE.  Stay humble, stay grateful, and stay grounded.  I’ve made way for the new in 2015 and look forward to each and every moment of it. Any given moment can be your moment to make way for the new, you just have to seize it.

God Bless,

April

 

Knowing God’s Plan For You

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Do we ever really know what God’s plan is for us?

I do know that I trust him, love him, and obey him.  I am only human.

I know that with out God’s word, I have no plan.

This scripture felt like God was speaking directly to me this morning as 2014 is coming to an end.  Many people have fallen on hard times.  It’s easy to sit back and judge others.  It’s easy to critique how others live their lives instead of praising each other’s accomplishments.  Even a small victory is still a victory is God’s eyes!  We should all come together and praise him for every little accomplishment in each others’ lives instead of tearing each other down. All we have in this life are the people who are in it.  The relationships that we create with others and with God shape us into who we become.

It has been said that when one door shuts, another opens. I have taken that old door, slammed it, nailed it shut, and threw away the key.  I have learned to let go of things that I can not control and started to move forward LIVING my life through God’s word. This year was a roller coaster and it was hard for our family, but you know what?  I’m THANKFUL for it.  I praise God everyday for letting it happen to us. Why on Earth would I be thankful for such a year?  Because it opened my eyes and my heart and brought me to my true calling.  I know now, that I am supposed to educate others. I have enrolled in school at ITT Technical to get my Associate’s Degree in Web Design.  I plan to continue with my Bachelors’ Degree and eventually my Master’s to educate others in Web and Graphic Design.  I am a born mentor to the youth in our area.  I love working with the youth! Whether it is through dance or simply teaching someone a new cooking technique, I was born to educate and I’m proud of it.  Now that my eyes are open, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

We can’t move forward, until we let go of the past.

Have a blessed Sunday afternoon everyone!

God Bless,

April

And So It Begins….

0c589182f3885d7f115e8af934424c86 Welcome my new friends!

My name is April and It’s been quite a year of ups and downs for me, but I know that it has all led me to this moment in time. I look forward to writing this blog, introducing you to simple ways to take time ,and enjoy yourself.  Everyone in this world is in such a hurry that sometimes they forget just how to enjoy themselves!   I used to live that life.  I was not working to live, I was living to work. My marriage suffered because of it, my health, and it led to a live not worth living.

My health began on a downward spiral in late September/early October.  I had to have a partial hysterectomy suddenly and then my Crohn’s disease spun out of control.  Though I anticipated on being back to work within a week of surgery, it had now been five.  Bills were piling up and I spent half of my time in and out of doctors’ offices and er visits.  I sunk into a deep depression and eventually when my dance studio of six years closed, I was quite heartbroken.  I thought my entire world was ending. I thought I could no longer do what I was “born” to do.  I cried for days upon end about it.  I really did not think that life could get much worse. People were starting to doubt me, friends no longer called, and I was shrinking away into nothing.

So what did I do?  I turned to God. I got on my knees and asked the lord to please shine a light into my darkest hour.  I focused on the good in this life and positive people that uplifted me.  Though most of the negative people were already out of my life, I said “goodbye” to the rest of them as well.  From that moment forward, I was ready to live my life.  I started taking time to truly appreciate what I had in this life.  I quit making excuses for myself and started to live.

So what is 81collective? This is my vision of what God has in store for me. This is my journey with faith, love, family, do it yourself, dance, health, and cooking. So please, follow my dancers as I show them how to inspire others, let’s teach each others some new recipes, let’s try some do it yourself ideas, let’s really connect with each other, and let’s follow the words of the Lord..together!

Have a blesssed day,

April

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